In front of others, you can be elegant, knowledgable, and pretty.....:)
In fact, you may be a plain Janes (same person)....maybe without the make-up, the nice clothes, the contact lenses.
And at times, you can be quite "ugly" and "disgusting"........:)
But, you have to show it all . Be brave, be spontaneous and be yourself! Your spouse (or meant to be) will love you as you are!
Knowing yourself and acknowledging your weaknesses is the first step to improve yourself and be a better person.